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What is wedding ?

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>I have some questions about wedding : >1.) Is wedding really necessary ? >2.) Can we have sex without wedding ? >3.) Does wedding really give satisfaction and not only obligations ?

I think the questioner in this case really means "marriage" everywhere he has said "wedding". To me, all the questions make a lot more sense that way. Jane. "I like to think of myself as one of the Happy Generations"            – FBI Special Agent Albert Rosenfield

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>>3.) Does wedding really give satisfaction and not only obligations ?

Please consider that the obligations of marriage are mutual.  True, you are obligated to "love, honor, and cherish" your spouse (or whatever you choose to vow) , but in return they are obligated to you in the same way.  That means that if something bad happens (sickness, poverty, etc) you have to stand by them, but on the other hand they will be standing by you too.  Committment goes both ways. —                                                 —  Michal Impressive amounts of material can be accreted in this manner.

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>I have some questions about wedding : >1.) Is wedding really necessary ?

You can go to the courthouse and get married for about $20.  A lot of people do this, but it can cause a small scandal.  Most people choose to have a wedding to celebrate thier decision to comit the rest of thier life to this person they found somewhere. >2.) Can we have sex without wedding ?

Yes.  A wedding has nothing to do with sex.  Do you want to have sex without a wedding?  That is a philosophical, religous question that you have to answer yourself.  Some people believe they will go to hell or at the least be punished if they are not married and have sex.  Others don’t, infact these days most don’t.  It really depends on how you were raised. >3.) Does wedding really give satisfaction and not only obligations ?

It’s nice to celebrate you love for this one special person with the other people you and you spouse care about.  It doesn’t have to be the big affair some people want.  It also seems to make it more permanant if you went through the trouble to have everyone you know witness the joining or you to your spouse.  It is already something you feel in your heart.  But having a wedding you are letting everyone join in.  Yes, there is a lot of satisfaction. It also makes you feel more obligated if you don’t already feel this way because everyone in your family will now judge you with your spouse in mind.  A wedding can’t solve relationship problems, but it does give you a chance to test out things like financial budgeting, how you get along with each other and you families under stress, and how you will support each other against you families when and if it is needed.  The pre-cana that has been discussed seems to be the most useful part of a wedding that has been discussed yet on this newsgroup.  Something of that sort would make marriages a lot easier, or at least more prepared for, than not having any discussions of the sort. >Thank you to answer with your own ideas.

You’re welcome, but please remember that these ideas and opinions are from a not-so-traditional southern applalacian woman and others probably would have slightly different if not all together disagree with me.  My opinions are only one perspective. Lynn

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>I have some questions about wedding : >1.) Is wedding really necessary ? >2.) Can we have sex without wedding ?

*My opinion*  is, that in these days, with HIV deseases and these things it is not to recommend to have sex with just *anyone*… But I do not mean You have to get married first either, *my opinion* is that it would be stupid to get married without having sex with the person first, I dont think You  really can say that you know this person that well that you want to marry him/her if you haven’t lived together, *and* had sex! If you really love a person I think it is ok to have sex before marriage! And I think that the wedding is a way to make the "world" understand that you intend to live your lifes together! Also: I think it is important to protect yourself against unwelcome pregnants… Whatever you do, don’t do anything stupid!! I think that can spoil a relation… Good luck! Regards / Malin

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>2.) Can we have sex without wedding ?

   It will be very difficult over the electronic network, but I guess we could try.  Your place or mine? — Hovig Heghinian University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign Department of Computer Science

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|> I have some questions about wedding : |> |> 1.) Is wedding really necessary ? Depends on the belief of the couple and the laws of the state.  Texas is a common law state so if you represent yourself as husband & wife, the state declares you "married" (at least I think that’s how it works). |> |> 2.) Can we have sex without wedding ? Are you asking if you have the ability or permission?  Again it depends on your beliefs.  If you believe that if you have sex without marriage you’ll burn in hell in the afterlife… Then again, if you feel it’s okay to sleep around without regard to any type of feelings… |> |> 3.) Does wedding really give satisfaction and not only obligations ? |> In my opinion the wedding is the method to publicly admit that you and your spouse agree to care for one another exclusively for the rest of your life regardless of what situations come up.  Hopefully both you and your spouse have agreed to this prior to the wedding! And it lets all your ex-girlfriends that you are no longer available . |> Thank you to answer with your own ideas. |> |> |> — |> *                        *                               *         |> *                        *  Yvan Botteron                * |> *  Life is a sexualy     *  Prairie 7                    * |> *                        *  CH-2316 Les Ponts-de-Martel  * |> *                        *                               * |> *      disease           *  Sorry, No E-MAIL adress      * |> *                        *                               * |> *                        *                               * — Member, Group Tech Staff | MaBell (214) 952-4566       |won’t so you can do Texas Instruments        |                             |later what others McKinney, Texas          |                             |can’t

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I have some questions about wedding : 1.) Is wedding really necessary ? 2.) Can we have sex without wedding ? 3.) Does wedding really give satisfaction and not only obligations ? Thank you to answer with your own ideas. — *                        *                               *       *                        *  Yvan Botteron                * *  Life is a sexualy     *  Prairie 7                    * *                        *  CH-2316 Les Ponts-de-Martel  * *                        *                               * *      disease           *  Sorry, No E-MAIL adress      * *                        *                               * *                        *                               *

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